PREPARE YOUR MARRIAGE FOR SUCCESS.
How long do you want to be married? It seems like a strange question to ask. Forever, is the obvious answer. Yet, newly engaged couples rarely plan for forever. They go from the proposal straight to the wedding. They talk about how many kids they want, where and when they will start their family. They fantasize about growing old with one another and how they will never let anything come between them. What they forget to talk about is how they will accomplish it. The couple neglects to first, create the foundation that will hold all of those wonderful things together. They miss the mark by not making a Relationship Blueprint for their success.
What is a Relationship Blueprint?
Think of marriage as a team. The blueprint is the detailed outline that serves as the team’s master plan to follow. This master plan will help solve issues that will arise. It influences the decisions the couple makes in and around the relationship. Because the blueprint was made with the teams sound and logical mind, feelings will not take the place of the predetermined outcomes agreed upon. The team follows the game plan to reach their intended goals. Every team makes their own blueprint based on the desired outcome.
Premarital Coaching Focus
- Communication techniques.
- Conversation skills.
- Being assertive with requests.
- Identifying Critical Issues.
- Prioritizing issues that can be solved.
- Healthy Relationship Balance.
- Staying true to self.
- Self care and self comforting.
- Conflict resolution.
- Power of forgiveness.
- Setting goals for financial success.
- Sex and intimacy.
- Staying Bonded.
- Relationship harmony.
- Spiritual development.
- Managing expectations
- Relationship roles and identity.
- Children and parenting.
- Blended families.
- Couple goals and legacy building.
44% of Divorced Couples
wish they knew what to expect in marriage. The truth is, there’s no way to divorce proof a marriage. The good news is, you can be prepared to deal with the challenges a marriage will face.
Challenges, often called tests in a relationship are unavoidable. Most couples try to minimize challenges by deciding not to deal with them. They duck and dodge addressing small issues that turn into huge arguments.
This avoidance results in resentment and for many couples permanent separation. This does the marriage and the family tremendous harm.
Prepared Couples Anticipate challenges
In fact, they resolve them faster when they foresee them. Why? Because tests in a relationship are necessary for its growth. Without challenges it is impossible for the union to grow, it is impossible for the two people to grow, and it is impossible for the couple to make an impact on others.
In our sessions we tackle the hard questions couples often do not ask and work together for agreeable solutions.
Each person is given an assessment separately to measure their thoughts in various areas. The couple then compares their thoughts to see where they strongly agree and where the couple may see some difference in their thinking or approach. As we go over the results of the assessment the couple will collaborate on where they want to improve their connection.
It is important to note the assessment does not predict compatibility for marriage, it highlights areas of strength and areas for growth. It is in these areas I work with a couple to understand one another’s viewpoint and how to navigate needs and wants in the union. The first step to coaching is to take the couples assessment. This will help identify the areas a couple would like to enhance. As a coach I work with clients who are ready to make healthy choices and conquer specific goals to improve the quality of their relationships and personal lives.